As many of you know, we are expecting a little Hoot OR Annie Junior and that leaves Annie drinking far more water and club soda (with a splash of cranberry and a lime) than anything else. Now, to be completely honest she does have the occasional sip or does the “sip and spit” maneuver that most wine drinkers consider a party foul…but it’s just NOT the same for me!
Some have said I shouldn’t drink while Annie is pregnant and, well, that just ain’t gonna happen people. But before you go thinking that I’m just being selfish, I got a permission slip from Annie herself. No reason for both of us to go without! We’ve had other people offer to be my drinking buddy during Annie’s down time but that too just isn’t the same, although I’m certainly not turning folks down.
So What is the Answer?
To be honest, there isn’t one other than to adapt and move forward, which is actually the point of this article. She’s okay with not drinking…and, it’s nothing compared to having a baby and growing into our role as parents as the time nears, and, we will adapt to this as well.
Humans are masterful at the art of adapting. We are resilient, each of us constantly growing and changing; however, the funny thing is just how much we bitch and complain about the things that go on in our lives…we look at things with such a negative tone rather than flip it around and understand that this thing we’re viewing negatively may actually be an absolutely amazing gift and open doors to a far better situation.
Miscarriages and Cancer
When Annie and I had a miscarriage in December of 2011 we literally spent a day being confused and upset, but we grabbed our backbones and realized that we had zero control over it…so we could sit and stew or we could jump the hell up and move on to the next party. A friend of ours recently revealed she had breast cancer and went in for surgery, but the crazy thing is that I did not hear a negative word spoken by her, not even once. The positivity that came from her situation is that hundreds, more like thousands, of people came out to show her support, love, and good thoughts during her challenges.
Now, some of you may say that having cancer (or a miscarriage) is not worth it in order to see all that support and love…but I beg to differ. We are human and the one thing we want at the end of the day is to be loved and accepted, and yes, sometimes it takes dire situations for the world to pause and hug you.
Choices and Perspective
I have discussed “choices and perspective” a lot, as well as thought about it, read about it, and worked on my own “choices and perspectives”…I don’t know of any more powerful tools in our toolbox than these two things. We can choose to focus on the negative like a miscarriage, cancer, or temporarily losing your drinking buddy; but the fact is that if you are conscious of your choices and of your perspective you can LIVE your life until your last breath is taken. The other choice is to be clinically alive but mentally, emotionally, and spiritually dead to the world.
We’re choosing to live this crazy, big, sometimes painful but always rewarding life!
To bring it all home now, I am not upset about losing my drinking buddy or the miscarriage we had in December. And, I can say that our friend that just had breast cancer surgery seems to be firing on all cylinders (she says she has good drugs now too) when it comes to her positive attitude toward her situation.
We can own our situations or let the situations own us. Pause for just a moment…when I say we own our situations, I mean that we own every single situation we are ever in…period. We may lose our house to a natural disaster or someone we love to some hideous disease, but we own how we choose to carry on or not carry on. By all means, it’s fine for us to cry and be really angry or feel defeated and want to give up…but once you’re done doing that, grab your backbone and pick your shit up, there’s still a life to live out there until there isn’t.
YOU are the author of YOUR book…what’s the ending look like?
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